Most people belive the notion that flirting and the ability to do it with great results is something that you are born with. This is not the case. The ability to flirt with success can be mastered by anyone who is really interested in learning to flirt and flirt well. Flirting is one of those areas that the phrase, "Practice makes perfect", really applies. Everyone learns things differently, learning how to flirt is no different. You just have to find the flirtatious person inside you, I promise, there is one.
Most important to understand is the fact that flirting can be mastered and used by anyone with great success. In order to be successfull at flirting, you don't need to be the most attractive person on the planet. Also important to understand is the fact that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The best part about being good at flirting is that the best parts of you are emphasized and these things are different for everyone. One of the best ways to be effective with your flirting is to have a quiet confidence in yourself and your positive qualities.
OK, enough introduction to flirting, let's get down to brass tacks. You have to know that flirting is really an art. It is an art that is mostly a non-verbal form of communication. What is really important is your eyes and how you use them. They say that the eyes are the window to the soul, it's true, so use yours to your advantage. I am sure that at one point in your life you have found yourself at a party or gathering and have found yourself glancing around the room. As you subconscientiously looked around, a stranger has caught your eye and your eyes met for a longer than casual time. This is the beginning of flirting. You are able to convey your interest without saying a word. Holding a glance for a little longer than normal speaks volumes to the other person. You will want to break the eye contact and then re-establish the gaze. Repeating this a couple of times will peak the other persons interest.
This quickly conveys that you are interested in flirting with them and you will be able to tell from their reaction whether or not they share your interest. More aggressive flirting is done through giving the object of flirtation a look, which says, “I am thinking dirty things about you”. Sometimes this is done with a lingering gaze, sometimes with an up-and-down-the-body glance and sometimes with a stare, which suggests that you are hungry and looking to devour them.
In addition to eye contact, the art of flirting makes use of other types of body language. Positioning your body in such a manner that shows you are open to communication is crucial to the art of flirting. Touching the other person is also a big part of the art of flirting, but it should be done cautiously. You should read the other person’s body language to determine whether they are welcoming the signals you are sending out. You’ll be able to tell if it’s appropriate to touch their arm or lean your leg against theirs while talking. The art of flirting consists of a combination of conveying your intentions while reading the signals of the other person. A successful combination of these two things which stems from a foundation of casual confidence in your own self worth makes the art of flirting enjoyable and fun.
